Nov 16
Child Custody – What you Need to Know About How to Present Yourself and Your Case to the Court
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E Brooks asked:
The family court system has a reputation of disappointing people who think that the system is corrupt. It has also been associated with people who think that men have no rights. But the one thing that has never been in dispute is it always nerve wracking when you are planning to go before the court and plead your case.
In my experience parents who do their homework about their case and how to handle themselves and their court issues tend to do very well in court. They tend to have positive outcomes against ex’s, ex’s with attorney’s, against men, or women, it all comes down to preparation and executing their strategy.
The first thing you need to learn about handling yourself in court is that you need to address the court directly and only when spoken to. It sounds simple but you would be surprised at how many people lose the temper and their wits when the ex makes allegations about them.
For example, I talked to too different people recently who had very different outcomes. The first person I coached to address the court only no matter what was said. He was very afraid that his ex would bring up something that would distract the court and create a focus on something besides the case. The second person told a story of how that exact scenario had happened to him. He lost his cool every time he went to court and the results were predictable. He didn’t just lose his temper he lost his case every time.
After some intense coaching the first person went to his hearing. This hearing was very serious because his ex was planning to move out of state and take the child. Sure enough she loaded up on accusations and rhetoric. He didn’t respond. When the judge asked how he felt about the mothers charges he stated there was no relation to the motion. The judge agreed and proceeded to give father everything he expected. Suffice it to say that if mother does move the child will stay put.
By knowing his case, how to react to both the mother and judge, and exactly what he could ask for he was able to play out his strategy in court. If more parents took the time to educate themselves about how the court works and how to define and execute a strategy there would be a lot more happy parents coming out of court and a lot fewer cases of the courts not getting it right.
Priscilla Bates
The family court system has a reputation of disappointing people who think that the system is corrupt. It has also been associated with people who think that men have no rights. But the one thing that has never been in dispute is it always nerve wracking when you are planning to go before the court and plead your case.
In my experience parents who do their homework about their case and how to handle themselves and their court issues tend to do very well in court. They tend to have positive outcomes against ex’s, ex’s with attorney’s, against men, or women, it all comes down to preparation and executing their strategy.
The first thing you need to learn about handling yourself in court is that you need to address the court directly and only when spoken to. It sounds simple but you would be surprised at how many people lose the temper and their wits when the ex makes allegations about them.
For example, I talked to too different people recently who had very different outcomes. The first person I coached to address the court only no matter what was said. He was very afraid that his ex would bring up something that would distract the court and create a focus on something besides the case. The second person told a story of how that exact scenario had happened to him. He lost his cool every time he went to court and the results were predictable. He didn’t just lose his temper he lost his case every time.
After some intense coaching the first person went to his hearing. This hearing was very serious because his ex was planning to move out of state and take the child. Sure enough she loaded up on accusations and rhetoric. He didn’t respond. When the judge asked how he felt about the mothers charges he stated there was no relation to the motion. The judge agreed and proceeded to give father everything he expected. Suffice it to say that if mother does move the child will stay put.
By knowing his case, how to react to both the mother and judge, and exactly what he could ask for he was able to play out his strategy in court. If more parents took the time to educate themselves about how the court works and how to define and execute a strategy there would be a lot more happy parents coming out of court and a lot fewer cases of the courts not getting it right.
Priscilla Bates